When It's Time To Care
For Your Parents
Just like there is no manual given out when you have a child of your own, there is also no manual to turn to when we are faced with caring for our own aging parents. It is our goal at Advocates to provide information from personal experience with our care and support, to help guide others through this process.
As our parents get older, they learn a new skill of how to compensate and pretend they are doing well. No one wants to share that they had an episode of incontinence, or that they completely forget everyday tasks
Here are some tips from the president of Advocates, Inna Pecar. Drawing from her great depth and personal experience of caring for her father, as he grew more dependent on assistance and struggled with severe dementia, she has given us some points to remember.
- Taking the right medications
- Eating three meals a day
- Staying hydrated
- Eating fresh food from their refrigerator
- Taking regular baths
- Not falling or having struggles with balance
- Not dealing with confusion
Do not assume
that your parents are:
Here are a couple suggestions to help prevent problems:
- Visit them at least once a week, or designate/hire an individual who can:
Validate that their medication matches what the doctor has prescribed. Double check the list of their medications and schedule an appointment with their primary physician to make sure the list is correct, that old medications are thrown out and that new medication is placed in a pill box.
*Also be sure to keep a list of their medication for your own records.
- Check on personal hygiene, that they are taking a bath or shower.
- Talk to their neighbors and join together to watch out for each other.
- Provide and install essential living aids, such as a shower stool, or a shower bar to hold onto. Having bars instead of simply using a towel holder to grab on to is safer and can help prevent falls.
- There is no furniture with sharp edges near their bed if they fall when dizzy.
- Check the safety of the floors carpets throughout the home, and ensure anti-slip mats are installed in the kitchen and bathroom.
- Check their refrigerator for expired food, including condiments that may be years past their expiration date.
- Provide a safety wrist bracelet that has a button that can be pushed in case of a fall or sudden illness. Several companies offer this service and provide an extra layer of security and safety.
"Advocates will go the extra mile for you."